Mistakes parents often make when they are having a baby or when they are new parents, is that they think that because birth and becoming a parent is such a natural, organic thing that happens that they should know what to do, that they should have all the answers. That is a really common misconception and it adds a lot of stress to parenting because we do not know.
Another pitfall is assuming that your partner has the same vision for parenting, has the same ideas about parenting style that you do. That can lead to a lot of conflict and a lot of stress in your family and in parenting. Another common pitfall is assuming that your baby will follow any program or any pattern that maybe you have heard your friends describe that their child does. They really are all different, they really all do come in with their own personalities. And comparing ourselves to other parents, it can be a great way to get information, but you always have to check in with your own wisdom, with your own knowledge of what really works for you and your child.
Another thing that people are not really prepared for is the intimacy of the parent-child relationship can make it really difficult to see the patterns and the behaviors that not only are you modeling for your child, but you are almost unconsciously passing on. So that is an area where you could spend some time before your baby is born. And it is a self introspection kind of journey, which not everybody really wants to look at that about themselves, but the flip side of it is, if you do not want to examine those things, they will all get reflected back to you at some point by your young child.
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